I'm not sure what I'm still surprised by such nonsense, but, alas. . .I am. I truly believe that some women have a real issue with other women. Just in general. Nothing specific or anything. Just. . .well . . . they hate them. They feel threatened or something. I've found that some women, again not all, are weak. Truly and unbearably weak. Maybe, even pathetic.
Now, before you send out the lynch mob, hear me out. Women seem to be much more likely to turn to "the dark side" when something goes wrong. Or even when something goes "seemingly" wrong. Hell, let's face it, even when something just doesn't go their way. It's an adult version of a temper tantrum, in my opinion. But, instead of these women throwing a fit - yelling, screaming, cussing and slamming shit around they. . .wait. That's EXACTLY what they do. See, SOME women don't know how to control themselves. They don't know how to have adult conversations about their problems. They like to yell. Perhaps, they feel like the loudest person wins? They like to deflect. Maybe, they think if they can blame enough shit on you, then all the crap that they did wrong will some how disappear. They like to back bite, back stab and back talk. Wow. I'm so proud to be part of this gender.
Then, you have the women who "take it". Yes, when you have someone "dishing it out", you always have to have a "taker". Now, here again. . .we're weak. I blog, quite frankly BECAUSE I'm scared. Scared to confront the mean people in my life. Scared to try and fail, yet again, at being heard. Scared of being sucked back into relationships that, honestly, I'm only too happy to be rid of. Terrified of being seen as a "bitch". So, what do I do? Ah. . .yes. . . .I take it. You dish it out and I'll take it. No matter how much, how long, how stupid, how wrong, how hurtful, how insane, how petty, how manipulative, I'll take it. Because I'm afraid. But, how horrible is it to stay friends with someone out of fear? About as bad as is it to stay in a marriage, out of fear. Relationships, built on fear, are doomed to fail. Yet, we allow ourselves to stick around and "take it" for far too long when the relationship is a "friendship". We allow women to treat us a thousand times worse than any man ever could.
Then, once we do find the strength to cut the ties that bind, all our fears are realized. We're made out to be the "bad ones", take the blame, take the fall. Our "friendly" dishers start dishing out their shit to anyone who'll listen. We, "takers", sit back and take it. Let it all roll out and wait for the fall out. Wishing and hoping that, one day, the TRUTH will be heard. But, who's truth? The delusional women who make up their "truth" as the story unfolds? The women who think that holding you back, somehow, makes them better? Stronger? More attractive? More powerful?
I like to believe that the truth always comes out. The unfortunate truth is this --- somewhere between your version and my version is probably where the truth lies. Another unfortunate truth is ---- as long as we're spending so much time and energy hurting each other; women will never be empowered to their full potential. As long as you're spewing piss and vinegar at me, you're doing nothing but spewing. You look like a fool. You look like a bitch. Why can't we spend that same amount of energy being kind to each other? Loving each other? Boosting each other? Supporting each other? It seems to me, that if we did THAT, we'd be unstoppable. We'd ALL be better off. One of my favorite quotes is, "You won't be punished for your anger. You'll be punished BY your anger." Remember that the next time that you're screaming at a woman whom you call friend.
Take a deep breath. . . .it's just another day in Perfect!!!!
Now, before you send out the lynch mob, hear me out. Women seem to be much more likely to turn to "the dark side" when something goes wrong. Or even when something goes "seemingly" wrong. Hell, let's face it, even when something just doesn't go their way. It's an adult version of a temper tantrum, in my opinion. But, instead of these women throwing a fit - yelling, screaming, cussing and slamming shit around they. . .wait. That's EXACTLY what they do. See, SOME women don't know how to control themselves. They don't know how to have adult conversations about their problems. They like to yell. Perhaps, they feel like the loudest person wins? They like to deflect. Maybe, they think if they can blame enough shit on you, then all the crap that they did wrong will some how disappear. They like to back bite, back stab and back talk. Wow. I'm so proud to be part of this gender.
Then, you have the women who "take it". Yes, when you have someone "dishing it out", you always have to have a "taker". Now, here again. . .we're weak. I blog, quite frankly BECAUSE I'm scared. Scared to confront the mean people in my life. Scared to try and fail, yet again, at being heard. Scared of being sucked back into relationships that, honestly, I'm only too happy to be rid of. Terrified of being seen as a "bitch". So, what do I do? Ah. . .yes. . . .I take it. You dish it out and I'll take it. No matter how much, how long, how stupid, how wrong, how hurtful, how insane, how petty, how manipulative, I'll take it. Because I'm afraid. But, how horrible is it to stay friends with someone out of fear? About as bad as is it to stay in a marriage, out of fear. Relationships, built on fear, are doomed to fail. Yet, we allow ourselves to stick around and "take it" for far too long when the relationship is a "friendship". We allow women to treat us a thousand times worse than any man ever could.
Then, once we do find the strength to cut the ties that bind, all our fears are realized. We're made out to be the "bad ones", take the blame, take the fall. Our "friendly" dishers start dishing out their shit to anyone who'll listen. We, "takers", sit back and take it. Let it all roll out and wait for the fall out. Wishing and hoping that, one day, the TRUTH will be heard. But, who's truth? The delusional women who make up their "truth" as the story unfolds? The women who think that holding you back, somehow, makes them better? Stronger? More attractive? More powerful?
I like to believe that the truth always comes out. The unfortunate truth is this --- somewhere between your version and my version is probably where the truth lies. Another unfortunate truth is ---- as long as we're spending so much time and energy hurting each other; women will never be empowered to their full potential. As long as you're spewing piss and vinegar at me, you're doing nothing but spewing. You look like a fool. You look like a bitch. Why can't we spend that same amount of energy being kind to each other? Loving each other? Boosting each other? Supporting each other? It seems to me, that if we did THAT, we'd be unstoppable. We'd ALL be better off. One of my favorite quotes is, "You won't be punished for your anger. You'll be punished BY your anger." Remember that the next time that you're screaming at a woman whom you call friend.
Take a deep breath. . . .it's just another day in Perfect!!!!
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